What happened to Sunday afternoon coffee?
I’m on (blog) tour this week and asked some friends to help me keep the ranch running while I’m gone. Today is Joanna Aislinn’s turn to feed the chickens!
So excited to be here on the day before the release of Calisa’s debut romance, HOME, and so looking forward to picking up my copy! Congrats again, my author-friend, and thanks so much for hosting me.
Today I’ll chat about a topic that I think about too often. At this time of year, I thought this an appropriate time to share. Thanks again, Calisa.
I can’t wait to hear what you have to share today, Joanna! You bet I’ll be popping in from time to time! (Who else will moderate the comments? :))
On more than one occasion, a cousin referred to Everybody Loves Raymond as a great illustration of Sundays at my house. Not sure that I totally agree with that but I believe Ray Romano lived what his sitcom showed. That show does not resonate by accident.
As a kid, Sunday after church usually meant an Italian pasta-and-meatball dinner followed by a trip to my aunt’s house for coffee and dessert. By the time I’d hit my twenties, my brother and/or I usually had a friend or two join us for the repast, which now included chicken cutlets and salad along with the best Portuguese and/or semolina breads around. (Hey, this Italian family is open-minded when it comes to food.). Coffee and cake shifted to my aunt’s daughter’s house. My cousin had four kids and worked full time as a teacher, but most Sundays we could count on winding up there, at least while the kids were small.
So here I am on a Sunday morning writing this post. I didn’t go to church and turned down an invitation to dinner at my mom’s this very day because (1) I’d hate to infect her with mine and hubby’s apparent colds/sinusitis; (2) the NY Giants are playing Aaron Rogers—I mean the Green Bay Packers 😉 ; (3) a trip to mom’s means my whole afternoon and part of the evening and when will I finish getting my house back to baseline clean before Monday and the new work week rolls around? (4) I’m supposed to be finishing up an evaluation for school and starting the next one. (5) One son wants to decorate the house for Christmas—he’ll tear up the questionable order I have in the garage if I don’t work with him; (6) the other son will most likely show up with friends…
Are you getting the picture? And is it me, or is this image far too busy?
Please indulge me as I digress briefly (but with purpose). At least ten years ago, I had the pleasure and privilege of listening to inspirational author Jan Carlberg speak at a women’s day-conference. I bought a small book of her essays (The Welcome Song: And Other Stories from a Place Called Home), which I’ve read time and again. One entry talks about when Saturday was the day to prepare for Sunday: when did Sunday become the day to prepare for Monday?
I wonder that too. My cousin’s kids are grown and she’s now a supervisor in the school district where she once taught. (After about four years of trying, we kind of gave up on a cup of coffee on a weeknight. Every now and again, she, myself and two other cousins get together—we’ve managed once or twice a year for the past two years. That’s definitely something.)
Sunday afternoon dinners and coffee-dessert are distant memories. Sunday is for frantically catching up with a prior week of running around keeping up with responsibilities. Just this morning, I watched an ad for audiobooks, with the actors talking about how audiobooks make ‘reading’ possible while they are engaged in other goings-on. (This while I pulled apart the slipcovers on the sofa for washing, while I watched The Nanny, the half-hour I “rested” Sunday morning. And while I’m still catching up because I spent Saturday morning finishing a book I couldn’t put down.) And, lest I forget, in between there are emails to check, tweets and status updates to post, texts and cell phone messages waiting and kids wanting to go to the mall. And did I mention the laundry?
Are you getting this illustration? Is there nothing we don’t multi-task anymore? Sometimes I get really sad. I’m not lacking for friends or ways to connect with them—all over the world, given the internet—yet who has time to talk? Can’t tell you how many walks I take scrolling through my contacts list looking for someone who might be available to chat for a whopping twenty minutes.
Maybe it’s just me. Sometimes, I just want to sit with someone in particular and have coffee. Think this Christmas and holiday season I’m going to try and do just that: invite some friends and just sit around the dining room table, make my New Year’s resolution to make that happen more often during the rest of the year.
On another note (since Calisa so kindly reminded me at her recent visit at my virtual place), for those who love a sweet, straight-up contemporary romance, my debut novel, No Matter Why, is celebrating its second anniversary. Find it in digital and print versions at The Wild Rose Press, Amazon, Barnes and Noble, and others too.
Me you can find at these haunts: my blog and website; Facebook and Twitter.
Thanks, Calisa, for allowing me to share my thoughts with you and your wonderful support network. You all showed how awesome you are during Calisa’s virtual visit at my blog!
I’m so happy you could come for a visit today, Joanna! Meanwhile you can find my hero being interviewed on Penumbra by my friend Silver James! http://www.silverjames.com/ Wonder what Sam Callahan really thinks of Poppy Tippen? Come on over for day FIVE of my countdown when Joanna’s finished with you! And thank everyone for coming by here, and for your support of my tour!
Posted on 12/27/2011, in Blog Tour, inspirations, Life As We Know It, Promotion, The Wild Rose Press and tagged #TWRP, Calisa Rhose, coffee, guest, HOME, Joanna Aislinn, No Matter Why, Writing. Bookmark the permalink. 23 Comments.
Your post made me homesick. I got to see my family for Christmas, but I do remember when we’d have an impromptu dinner or barbecue and invite the family and friends over. I’ve moved and don’t see my family often enough, but sometimes it is nice to hear a friendly voice or two.
Family arrivals/get togethers can be absolutely wonderful but departure and time apart in between is no funl. I can relate, Lynn. You reminded me of the joy of arriving at my grandmother’s in Italy and the sobs when it was time to head back to the airport. Just the other day, I watched the same thing take place as a neighbor’s sister, brother-in-law and nephews loaded up in the van to head back to their home in the South. But without both sides of the travel coin, no one would get together and we’d wind up missing out on that.
Hang in there and remember the joy–which keeps us coming and going back. (Yes, I’m done now–dang, I write as much as I talk, lol.)
HNY to you and yours, Lynn!
That’s b/c really great are stopping by!
What I intended was: That’s b/c really great PEOPLE are stopping by, lol. See what too much multi-tasking does?
You’re getting some really great comments Joanna.
Yeah, I wonder when Sunday stopped being the day of rest, too! It seems like catch up day. but I also try to make it rest day too so we can all goof off – at least until we have to make school lunches etc. LOL Congrats to you and Calisa, and all the best for the future!
Thanks, Kellie. You’re smarter than I am, making sure to take some time to rest on Sunday.
Joanna, your post is all too true. Most of us are so busy doing multiple things and thinking of everything we still have to do, that relaxation and just being able to enjoy the moment are sometimes all but impossible. Thank you for painting such a vivid word picture of what has become a common 21st-century dilemma. And, of course, HAPPY RELEASE DAY! Calisa. Is it also your birthday? Didn’t know that, but if it is, then HAPPY BIRTHDAY, too!
Thanks, Darcy. Can’t convey how much it means to know people stop what they’re doing to read the thoughts I so love to share–partly, because doing so helps me deal with my own feelings on various topics. So sad we have all these ‘fast’ things but have crammed every last second with something to do.
Joanna and Calisa, two of my favorite ladies, virtually in one spot! Thank you so much for sharing, Joanna–I wish so much that I was having coffee with you right now, face to face, instead of finishing my cold Christmas-mugful in front of my laptop screen.
I have learned this year how much things can change–and how quickly–without any actions of my own. When people’s lives change course, especially close friends or loved ones, mine changes too, like it or not. Some of these changes have caused me to question myself…is my security really tethered to what type of role someone else “decides” I should play in their life? Maybe it shouldn’t be, but sadly, sometimes it is. Think I’ll work on untying some loose knots this year, and double knotting some others, to keep them from slipping.
Joanna and Calisa, prepare to be double knotted…your not going anywhere!
Ms. Anna, you are sunshine at its brightest wherever you go. I’m glad we can at least share coffee at each end of our laptops b/c without them, we would never have ‘met’.!
Thanks so much for your very kind words and I love the images associated with your knots.
If it wasn’t for the internet, I would probably never stay in touch with folks. We’re all too busy, it seems.
Sometimes I feel the same way, Callie. I have a friend with whom I used to speak several times a day. Been calling her for weeks and finally got a text wishing me happy holidays. Haven’t answered it yet.
Is this what we’ve come to, in the electronic age?
Thank you so much Joanna!
HAPPY BIRTHDAY AND HAPPY RELEASE DAY, CALISA!
Thanks, Liz. Doesn’t get simpler than those things, right? Wound up at my neighbor’s until 10:30–we had a great time, Calisa (as I’m having here!).
Coffee and conversation. Good things. Nice post!
That’s a good thing, Joanna. Dinner out sounds nice and relaxing.
Hey, Christine. Seems like connecting electronically is the way of things, right? Thanks for stopping in. I almost turned down a last-minute invitation to dinner b/c I wanted to clean and later work on my wip. (I’m really into it and unearthing a whole other layer of the my characters’ POVs :)). But: I remembered what I wrote in this post and accepted instead. After all, I’m, blessed enough to be on vacation too this week.
Take care and ttys!
Hi Ladies! Joanna, enjoyed your post! In this day and age it is hard to find all the time you need to get everything done and still keep your relationships with friends and some family on a ‘normal’ face to face level. Sad but true. I have a best friend that lives not far from me, but we only see each other maybe twice a year for a long LONG dinner out. We talk on the phone, but it’s hard to get together.
Anyway, glad to know I’m not the only one that seems to lack that time 🙂
HAPPY NEW YEAR…..
So glad to be here, even if I did ferhoodle my dates. (I seem to have gotten good at that, which is kind of sad…)
Off to visit you at Silver’s 🙂 and I’ll be in and out all day myself.
Welcome Joanna! I’m so glad you found your way out to the ranch all right! Let’s have some stimulating conversation!
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